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JessiZ
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# Posted: 13 Feb 2008 18:33
Is there anything wrong with planning your own baby shower?? We have a rather large family and everyone wants to help, but I feel bad putting the whole cost of one person especially since it will be both sides of the family going and friends and co-workers, totally over 120 people. And I do not want to not invite someone because of price issues. Please help???
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Anonymous
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# Posted: 13 Feb 2008 23:11
jessiz,
I'm having the same problems only the mom to be has invited 90 people and the shower is at my home. Thank goodness her mother (my sister in law) has offered to split the cost with me. Mom to be only wanted one shower this is her first child. I'm sure things will work out for you, family members will jump in and help. You say everyone wants to help, how are they helping $$$ or time?
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he_hearts_me
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# Posted: 17 Feb 2008 21:26
why not ask a few 'main' family members to get together and work with you, if several people are spliting the cost, it won't be such a burden.. explain to each of them its important to you everyone you care for is invited, and then offer to help in one way or another.. be it money or helping make center pieces... if they include you, you can be sure you've over seen the invation lists and the shower will be mostly what you wanted... if at all possible, you don't want to take it on yourself.. planning any party is stressfull, let alone a party for 120+!! as long as you tell your family why your worried (ie: too many guest= alot of money, but you really want everyone there) they should understand.. the shower is supposed to be about the mommy to be... it will all work out if you tell them, and they can find a way to work together.. mom- in charge of food sis-decorations bff- games... it'll be fun, just try not to stress... not good for baby!! hope it works out!
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littlemommaof4
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# Posted: 25 Feb 2008 10:02
I also wondered if it was acceptable to throw my own shower. I am the mother of 4 (5 is on the way). We have given all of our baby items away to other families over the years. I was considering asking my teen/pre-teen daughters if they wanted to help in the special planning and welcoming of their new sibling.
The cost is not an issue, as our guest list would be more like 20-25.
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Tiffy
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# Posted: 22 Oct 2008 11:55
I'm planning my own party with my best friend (second child). I'm not worried too much about cost, I just worry about everyone that I want to be there and those that I don't! My sister wanted to plan the party and make it a surprise like she did with my first child but she didn't include my partners family and they were upset so I decided to take control of the guest list and the invitations. My best friend is working on the menu and the games. We are collaborating on the decorations. The shower will be held at my house so that I don't have to worry abut transporting the gifts! Wish me luck!
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Anonymous
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# Posted: 9 Jul 2009 09:13
I helped plan my shower and it turned out great. All of my friends had gone back to work and I was the only one with time on my hands. Things kept coming up and I felt the baby might arrive before the shower was planned so I decided to take charge. I ordered the invitations, made the decorations and coordinated the food (and even made my favorites)...the day of I was NOT allowed to go to the location until it was completed decorated. Although I had planned most of it, I was still blown away. My friends had a few surprises that I didnt know about which was a great touch! Overall, it was GREAT and by helping plan it, I got what I envisioned!lauraf
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Amazed
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# Posted: 21 Aug 2009 14:17
It's never OK to throw yourself a shower!!!!!
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sillyme
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# Posted: 25 Aug 2009 09:59
It is OK to throw your own shower. Some may be lucky enough to be surrounded by friends who are willing and ready to do it for you, but others aren't and they have just as much right to the enjoyment a baby shower brings.
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candy
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# Posted: 8 Oct 2009 23:37
im also wondering the same thing... my issue is not a price thing. its alot more personal than that. my child's father doesnt get along with my immediate-family. my mother has offered to plan my shower, but she made it very clear that she doesnt want my son's father to be there. she said he is not welcome... and i know that his family is not going to come to something that he is not welcome at. i feel so bad because this is our first child and i want everybody to come together for this blessing. so i think i want to throw my own shower in a neutral location so that i can have the say-so as far as who can come. is that tacky? i just want everything to be a positive experience...
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manny
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# Posted: 9 Oct 2009 05:36
good site you got there
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Anonymous
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# Posted: 9 Oct 2009 13:20
i would plan my own baby shower if i had one.. i dont know anyone who is a good "hostess" person.. I like hosting things so I would probably plan it and have a friend announce the events.. kind of ask a friend to help me throw it..
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Anonymous
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# Posted: 11 Dec 2009 11:20
well I plan on having my baby shower in january and im due in april..... i dont know anything about it...... im kinda lost
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Anonymous
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# Posted: 15 Jan 2010 02:43
I have alot of family and friends who could've helped and organised my baby shower but i chose to plan my own in the end!
It's so much easier planning your own shower because you can invite all your friends that you want at the event without having to discuss it with anyone else except for your partner :D and you can discuss whether or not to have kids at the event or not.
My partner has had some input into the baby shower as well because were having both genders at the event. We are having about 50 guests at my own house! Some of the men will be outside playing poker whilst the rest of us are inside playing the baby games!
Plus if your not working or have nothing to do then planning your baby shower is a good way to keep yourself busy!
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Bjpowell
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# Posted: 7 Feb 2010 10:24
I planned my own wedding shower, wedding, and will now plan my own baby shower - I love being able to do my own stuff - and I'm not the kinda of person that goes overboard with overpriced stuff! I make my own food for much cheaper!
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mmamia
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# Posted: 21 Mar 2010 07:57
I am planning my own shower for child #2, it is turning into a headache. I have some very strange relatives, & a few are always negative, they like to drink, & smoke which we do not allow in our home. I just want it to be over with!! Also my husband & I just moved into our first home & i have met 2 neighbors so far, i just hope my family members will behave. And lastly, i put on the invitations: ADULTS ONLY ATMOSPHERE!! & highlighted it, now i hear talk of family members who expect to bring their children!!! How do i handle this. Please Help baby Shower is this coming saturday!!!
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mmamia
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# Posted: 21 Mar 2010 08:00
I just came across this site by accident, wish i would have found it sooner. I love the different opinions, it is very helpful. So good to know that I am not the only one who has some of these problems. :-)
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